Three (3) Very Small “But Important” Steps to Healthy Relationships

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How to determine whether a potential prospect is a sex-capade or true love.

Once you understand the three small but important steps to healthy relationships, you will learn more about potential lovers beforehand to determine if it’s really love or just lust. When dating set your pace, for true love does not come overnight. If you’re looking for a long term relationship, you want to make sure the person you choose is worthy of you. So use this information to recognize what you don’t want so that you can focus on whatever it is that you do want. Being able to strike up a conversation with a stranger shows maturity and a sense of confidence. So, if you’ve gotten this far, you’re on your way, which is precisely why you should read further.

1. Ask Questions To create interesting dialogue, start off by asking questions. Jot down some questions that you may want or need to know about your date, before meeting him or her. When getting to know this person, you want to ask questions that will align with your way of thinking and the things you desire in life. For instance: “What types of movies do you like?” This is a very common question and relevant if you enjoy movies. And wouldn’t it be nice to know that your date loves horrors, which you despise. See what I mean? However, if you ask a question like “Do you work out?” and he does and that’s what you like doing, then you know you share a common interest. Generating carefully chosen questions like these can help you in determining how much you and your new love interest have in common. It’s important to ask questions about the person’s background in order to get a feel for your similarities. Some questions that may be real deal-breakers, such as “What’s your religious background?,” are very important if you have a strong religious belief or just want someone who shares your beliefs. I strongly suggest letting the air out of the tire by posing questions like these early in the discussion:

• Are you married?

• What are your feelings about family?

• How do you feel about religion?

• Do you have kids?

If you’re planning to have family, it’s important that your potential love interest be on the same page.

Now that you have your questions in hand/head, it’s time to sit down with your date and “interview.” Yes, interview. This is all it is, an interview. You are meeting this person to find out if you are compatible. The second step is being observant. Give your undivided attention to this person by becoming tuned in to what he or she is telling you.

2. Be Observant Be present. Put your cell phone on vibrate and don’t look at it until you go to the ladies/gents room. You should have enough questions to keep up an interesting conversation. It’s important that you pay attention. Paying attention makes your date feel important and valid; you can definitely score points here. Observing one’s responses is important because later, if those responses change, it’s a red flag that maybe this person needs some healing from a previous relationship. Always follow up with additional questions related to the answers. Observe, if/when someone’s story changes too often. Consistency is important. Observe the person’s actions. Does he react when you ask questions, regardless of the type of question? This could be a sign of baggage (perceived ideologies from their experiences). You don’t want to move into a relationship that has baggage because that baggage could forever be in the way.

3. No sex Finally, sex is very intimate and if exposed too soon in relationships it could give the wrong impression; one may believe that this is how you are all the time. Initially the connection between two people is bound to be physical, unless they meet on a blind date. Attraction is such a small part of the equation, though. By taking your time and waiting to have sex you will find out if you like this person mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and whether there is a true connection or not. There’s a rule about having sex too soon in a prospective relationship: Don’t have sex for at least 90 days. Steve Harvey coined the 90-day rule in his book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man. Don’t give up the drawls! Ladies and gents, until you know who this person is you’re courting, do not exposed your most intimate and precious part of yourself! True, you may never know some people even if it’s a 10-step program, this is why we take our time. One thing I can assure you is, you will learn more about this person thru communicating over 90 days, that will help you make the best decision possible, as compared to sleeping with him or her too soon. Once we become intimate with someone, everything has been put on the table, and if it happens too soon, there won’t be much to talk about, because you will have this awkward intimate relationship you feel committed to based on sex only. At first people will do everything you like because we all have an animalistic attraction and when we are attracted to someone our hormones are disturbed in an animalistic way, which is very sexy and so hard to resist. However, you have to stay focused on the goal if you’re looking for stability. It is imperative that you get to know the person before intimacy. So, why not cherish that feeling and, at the same time, get to know your potential wife/husband on a deeper level? You will also be more inclined to pay attention to your own feelings and have an understanding about what you’re not willing to live with versus what you want to live with.

Getting to know a love interest can take at least 12 face-to-face dates and/or 90 days. In this time span you will not only get to know the person’s habits, but you will find out if you truly want this person in your life. Sometimes this can happen in as little as three conversations. Once you’ve established the three small but important steps to healthy relationships you should have some idea about the person you’re dating or more knowledge about someone you want to date. If nothing else, getting to know the person better may lead to a lasting friendship. The bottom line is, lots of people have long relations after having sex the first night, but the question is, is it a healthy relationship?

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Hillary Clinton not conceding…cause havoc amongst democrats.

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Why wont Hillary Clinton concede and give Barack Obama the proper respect which he deserves? She’s continuing to show America that she really is a sore looser and will stop at nothing to get what she wants.  She has stated a many of times that she would rally behind the democrats once there has been an elected nominee…well…here we are…what is the problem?

Hillary Clinton is disrespectful not only to Barack Obama but to the rest of the democratic party as well. She is showing America not only is she not respectful to the rules applied in this campaign, but she also has an agenda and she’s not willing to call it quits to allow the democratic party to unite.

Hillary Clinton’s not conceding continues to divide the democratic party and does nothing to help the democrats clinch the nomination come November 3rd.

If Hillary is pressing-on and trying to force Barack in adding her to the ticket for the position of VP…it only makes her look bad and continues to confirm to America that she is not ready for any position of unity.

The democratic party needs to start healing from the mess which Hillary Clinton has put us through during the past 5 months. Many reporters has shown the numbers and proved that she would not win even if she took majority of the delegates and votes…this has been a long and drawn out fiasco…I wish Hillary would put it to rest and think of more than herself or becoming the “first female” to do anything. She has made a name for herself in her husband’s administration.

We just ask that she bell out gracefully that we (democrats) can heal, unite and ensure that there will not be another Bush administration in our white house.

Clinton’s Aides ALARMED!…is this case a of “MISMANAGEMENT?”…again!

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Can you you believe this!

Aides alarmed! 

“Aides to Clinton said earlier this week they were alarmed at the lack of clarity about many of the caucus rules …”

Is this who we truly want for our president. Aren’t we tired of “msimanagement”…we need new ideas and solutions to the many issues we have in america not to mention…”economy” and another is “communication.” Although we are a great nation, we have to remain conscious, with that said, America needs to have a system in place with effective aides, advisors and managers who will make the right decision for the country not for ones personal gain/vain.

Hillary is not fit or ready to manage our country…she fell to plan, organize, lead and control in her current organization/campaign. She’s an intelligent woman, but I think she should stick with smaller cabinets (i.e. VP, senator) untill she is ready to take on such a large task as “President of the United States of America.”

Enough of the mismanagement! The last 8 years have put us in a crisis with a deficit which it will be hard for any of our presidential candidates to ever get us up out of  in only a 4 year term.  

America we have to know that we deserve the best! But it starts with ideas and solutions which are well thought and laidout from start to finish.

Barack Obama has been consistent, collective and smooth, further proving he has the management skills that it takes to be a “President of the United States of America.” Along with his great ideas of starting with the people, and being open to hearing what the people would like and communicating with not just our allies, but our enemies as well. 

Starting from the bottom is a great idea, this is something america has tought americans for many years…so lets… as Barack say’s, “live the american dream.”

No president has had experience at being a president in his/her first term. Every president we’ve had, had no experience running a nation before his first term. But we trusted them and there thought out ideas and views of what they wanted and we took a shot at them by giving them our votes. Yet to be disappointed once again.

It’s 2008 and Barack Obama has a well thought out plan, and it starts with “hope, peace and love” …I truly believe america is ready for greatness for all. We are a leading country when it comes to diversity….our ideas may differ a bit… but i dont believe they are too far from similar…unless you are a person who loves adversary, hate, discontent and enjoys living off others misery. 

I just hope america take a seat, sit back and believe we can have the best. 

Track Your Traffic Rank.

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We all know that if you are on the web the most important thing is “getting traffic” to your website.

Visitors/Customers = Traffic/Dollars

If your website doesn’t have an “Alexa Traffic Ranking” score, I’m pretty sure that your site is not being recognized by the top search engine “Google“, Yahoo, or MSN.

You ask why does this matter? Google offers a page rank, both page rank and Alexa traffic rank has a lot to do with SEO. Also, Googles page rank is very popular because its like getting an “A” in your math class. )

So, the more you familiarize yourself with “page rank” and “Alexa rank” the more you will need to perfect your SEO strategies…there are lots of SEO knowledge on the web which will help you.

Here is one that helped me…1 hour SEO course.

Alexa.com is a great way to find out what sites are moving and a shaking as well. Check it out…lots of interesting information you can find out about your website and others.

List of Search Engines.

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  1. 10 Directory – Categorized web directory.
  2. AardvarkBusiness.net – Find thousands of business websites around the web with this search engine.
  3. AardvarkTravel.net – If you are in the need of a good vacation, you can go here and search through over 20 thousand travel sites from around the world.
  4. AddAll – Search for your favorite book from over forty different stores and 20,000 different sellers, including Amazon.com.
  5. Ajdee.com – All submitted sites are reviewed and approved by editors before inclusion is granted. They cover all general categories and do not allow adult related websites.
  6. Alexa.com – Search engine providing web information on published websites on the web.
  7. Alibaba.com – Extensive Global trade directory, many different products and manufacturers available.
  8. AllofMaine.com – A large search directory of Maine only websites.
  9. AlltheWeb – Search results are provided by Yahoo. You can also search specifically for news, audio and video all in 36 different languages.
  10. AltaVista – Search the web, audio, images, videos and news. You can also search Worldwide or narrow your results to U.S. Only.
  11. AOL Search – Search the web with AOL. Search results are enhanced by Google.
  12. Artist Direct – A network of music related sites and services. You can find sites that offer multi-media content, music related e-commerce, music news and more.
  13. Ask.com – Find whatever you are looking for quickly and easily. You can search the web for images, blogs, news and much more. Ask has recently had a redesign and some reports have been very positive about it.
  14. Best of the Web – Very popular directory, with strict submission guidelines. Also have an award program for the best ranked sites.
  15. BizAhead – International business to business directory.
  16. BizEurope – Extensive directory and trade portal for European businesses.
  17. Black Business Planet – A directory filled with links to African American related websites and content.
  18. Blinkx – Very large search engine for finding videos across the web. They have millions of results in their database are considered to be one of the largest video search engines in the world.
  19. Blo.gs – Blog search engine owned by Yahoo. Add your own blog to the directory.
  20. Blogarama – Searchable blog directory you can also browse by category.
  21. BlogCatalog – Very large social blog directory, find a blog or add your own to the list.
  22. BlogDigger – Search engine for finding blogs and RSS feeds.
  23. BlogDumps – Directory of blogs from around the web.
  24. BlogExplosion – Directory of blogs covering virtually every category.
  25. BlogFlux – Extensive directory of blogs, blogging tools and other resources.
  26. Bloggapedia – Directory of blogs, blog news and more. Add your blog to the directory.
  27. BlogHop – Search through nearly 30,000 blogs in this directory, you can find them by tags or keyword search.
  28. BlogHub – Online directory of blogs and resources for bloggers.
  29. Bloglines – Search or share your favorite news feeds, blogs and rich web content.
  30. Blog-Search – Find your favorite blogs and RSS feeds.
  31. BlogSearchEngine – Search engine queries results from over 10 million blogs around the web.
  32. Bloogz – Blog search engine.
  33. BookFinder – Searches over 125 million books from several online catalogs. You are sure to find your favorite.
  34. Bpubs.com – A business search engine and directory for business and trade related publications.
  35. BritBlog.com – Searchable directory of British based blogs.
  36. Business.com – Large business search engine and directory.
  37. BusinessCrawler – Large business search engine and directory.
  38. BusinesSeek – Global business directory and search engine.
  39. ChaCha – Suppose you can’t find what you are searching for. One click on ChaCha will get you in touch with a live guide to help you find what you want.
  40. Clusty – A twist on typical search engines. Clusty not only lists your results like you are used to seeing, but it also breaks them into clusters, or categories, making finding the desired results a little easier.
  41. ComicSeeker.com – If comic books are more your style, search the web for rare and collectible comics here.
  42. Cyber TradeZone – Global directory of importers and exporters.
  43. Directory Hound – Human edited directory modeled after Dmoz. All sites must be submitted and approved before entry also covers all general categories.
  44. Dmoz – Probably the most popular and largest human edited search engine directory. All sites must be submitted and approved for placement in the directory.
  45. DogPile – Compiles results from some of the major search engines such as Google, Yahoo and Windows Live Search.
  46. DriverSearch.com – Have a device that requires a driver? Here you can search the web for thousands of device drivers.
  47. EscapeArtist.com – A search engine developed to give you calling codes to and from any country in the world.
  48. Espew – An Mp3 search engine that aggregates results from around the web. This is a completely free and legal service. They pay a percentage to the record labels every time a song is played.
  49. EveryZing – A media search engine for finding audio and video files across multiple channels.
  50. ExactSeek – Large online search engine, you can search the web, blogs, news and articles. You can include your site for free or featured/paid inclusion.
  51. Excite – A search engine and much more. Get your own customized page with news, horoscopes, local weather and more.
  52. Find That Feed – search the web for feeds by keyword.
  53. FinderSeeker – A search engine for finding other search engines.
  54. FindSounds – A free search engine for finding audio clips and sound effects. You can get files in Wave, AU and AIFF formats.
  55. First Nations Seeker – Extensive directory of North American Indian websites.
  56. GigaBlast – Nice search engine with lots of features. You can restrict search results to specific sites add search features to your own site and more.
  57. GoGuides.org – Community guides review all site submissions for inclusion within the directory. Very clean look, easy to use.
  58. Google – 2nd largest, most popular and widely used search engines on the planet.
  59. Google Blog Search – Search Google’s index to find blogs on your favorite topic.
  60. Hawaii Search – A directory committed to indexing every website with relation to the Hawaiian Islands. You can get hotel accommodations or just check out the local shops.
  61. Healia – Search engine for health related information.
  62. HomePageSeek – Some webmasters just don’t have a knack for being found. This search engine and directory, tries to help you find those sites you wouldn’t ordinarily come across.
  63. HongKong Business Directory – Directory of information for over 100,000 HongKong based businesses.
  64. HotBot – Search the web using Ask.com or MSN and you can create custom filters to block out all of that unwanted information.
  65. Iboogie – Meta search engine that clusters results so they can be broken down into the most relevant information related to your criteria.
  66. Irazoo – Get points which can earn you prizes by simply using the search engine.
  67. IxQuick – A very powerful meta search engine, not only can you find what you want on the web, you can also find phone numbers and addresses through their international phone directory search.
  68. Jayde – Popular business to business search engine. Find businesses in many different markets.
  69. JoeAnt – A very large directory portal operated by volunteer guides you can find a little bit of everything here and you can apply to become a guide yourself.
  70. Kanoodle – This is a pay-per-click sponsored search engine. This means you can pay for inclusion, if you are trying to drive traffic to your site.
  71. KartOO – A fun flash based metasearch engine with a unique visual interface. Rather than displaying long boring lists of results, KartOO displays an interactive map for finding results.
  72. KellySearch.com – Directory of over 2 million businesses and products from around the globe.
  73. Krugle – This is a search engine for open source code, projects and technical information for developers.
  74. LemmeFindMeta search engine that pulls results from Google. Yahoo and MSN.
  75. Librarians Internet Index – A publicly funded search engine and directory of information and resources for librarians.
  76. Lycos – Lycos search results are powered by Ask.com and much like Excite you can customize the homepage to suit your interests.
  77. LyricsPoint.com – Looking for song lyrics? This search engine pulls over 100,000 song lyrics to match your criteria.
  78. Made-in-China.com – Trade directory of products from Chinese Suppliers.
  79. Mahalo – Jason Calacanis’ baby, a very serious contender with lots of funding, is best described as a cross between Wikipedia and Google. If a human edit result for your query doesn’t exist, you’ll be transferred to standard Google results.
  80. Mamma.com – A meta search engine. Not only can you search the web for information and videos you can also search the white and yellow pages.
  81. MasterSeek – Find businesses and contact information from companies in 75 countries. Filter results to specific countries.
  82. MELE.com – A specialty search engine for finding Hawaiian music by artist name, album name or song title.
  83. MetaCrawler – Search the web, yellow pages and white pages from one place.
  84. MozDex – A search engine seeded from the Dmoz Directory, it is powered by open source technology.
  85. Mp3Realm – Search for Mp3 files artist, title, genre and album. You can also filter results by duration.
  86. MSDewey.com –MY #1 and most favorite…the new, beautiful and creative virtual search engine by Microsoft Corporation.
  87. MSN – Third Largest Search Engine on the World Wide Web.
  88. Mu-Seek – Search the web for your favorite music, by words in the title or words in the song lyrics. Just in case you can’t remember what the song was called.
  89. Music Crawler – One of the leading U.S. Based search engines. Find your favorite music anywhere on the web.
  90. MusicHits – Find everything from musician homepages, music sells, to music news sites very extensive directory.
  91. Musicians-Search.net – A user updated directory of music related sites. You can browse by genre or even instruments or search the directory. You can also add your own music site.
  92. MusicIP – Discover new artists through their digital music search engine. You can also sign-up to include your own recordings in the index.
  93. MusicRobot – Search the Internet for MIDI files of your favorite music.
  94. MusicSearcher – Search or browse by your favorite artist or music genre. They also aggregate breaking news in the music industry.
  95. MusicVideos4All – Search the web for your favorite music videos or browse through what others are searching for.
  96. Netscape Search – Search the web for your favorite information with Netscape. Not the best search engine out there by any means, but solid; mostly used by Netscape users.
  97. Othx – Personal blog search engine, human edited for quality results.
  98. ParaSeek – A search engine and directory for those of you interested in the paranormal.
  99. Peace Corps Journals – Directory of over 3000 blogs written by Peace Corps volunteers from around the world.
  100. PhotoBlogs.org – Search through more than 26,000 photo blogs in their directory.
  101. Pixsy – Very nice media search engine. You can find plenty of images and videos here to suit your fancy.
  102. Plazoo – Blog and feed search engine. You have the option to search in several different languages.
  103. PodNova – A podcast and video blog search engine. You can search the directory or browse by tag, you can also add your own feed for others to find.
  104. PodScope – The first of its kind, PodScope is an audio and video search engine that allows you to search and find podcasts by the words that are spoken within them.
  105. PoemHunter.com – Search for poets, poems, quotations and music.
  106. Postami.com – RSS and Atom search engine.
  107. Project Playlist – Generates results from record labels, artist websites music blogs and other publicly available websites. Search by Artist name, song title or both.
  108. Real Estate Blogs – A large directory of blogs affiliated with the real estate market.
  109. Scirus – Search engine for scientists. Searches and indexes over 450 million science related websites, to keep scientific information at your fingertips.
  110. ScoopVid! – Track down the most popular videos by the hour, day or even month. You can also search the web for video results.
  111. ScrubtheWeb – On top of searching the web, this site is also a host to many great web developer tools, like the meta tag builder and analyzer.
  112. Search Turtle – A human edited web directory and search engine. Make claims of having the most rigorous submission guidelines, to allow for the best spam-free results.
  113. SearchMaze – Nice search engine, which shares useful tools and other features like their toolbar with the ability to search over 150 search engines.
  114. Seekz – Meta search engine with site clustering and duplicate removal.
  115. SeeqPod – Search engine aggregates music from all over the web, and displays the results in a clean interface. You can also play the music right from the search results to see if it is what you are looking for.
  116. SFAHQ – Search for results of related interests to the Special Forces. A non-profit project ran by ex-military.
  117. SkreemR – Search engine that indexes publicly accessible audio files from across the web.
  118. SmallBizSearch.com – Small business search engine provided by Entrepreneur.com.
  119. Social Work Search – Searchable directory of information in the social worker profession.
  120. SplogSpot – Search engine for finding spam blogs, link farms and more spam related content.
  121. Sproose – A user powered search engine. Users vote on the results and then the sites are ranked accordingly. This allows them to provide quality results, without all of the junk that you find in a typical search engine.
  122. StarLink – Search for Astronomy related information, institutions, and addresses.
  123. Syndic8 – RSS and Atom news feed search engine.
  124. Technorati – One of the most popular blog directories, they currently index over 100 million blogs on virtually every topic.
  125. Teddy Bear Search – A search engine for finding teddy bears around the world. Searches are customizable and you can search in English or French.
  126. The Brass Band Portal – If brass bands are your thing, this is a search engine dedicated to finding related information for brass fans.
  127. Total Blog Directory – Categorized directory of blogs.
  128. Truveo – Searches through millions of videos across the web each day. Purchased by AOL in 2006 this is one of the largest sources for finding videos.
  129. Ulinkx – A social video search engine. Browse popular videos by tags or perform a search for your favorites.
  130. UsedBookSearch – Search thousands of online shops for used, rare and out of print books.
  131. Vdoogle – This search engine indexes results from sites like YouTube and Google Video, to bring you shared and viral videos.
  132. VidSeaBeta search engine for video hunters.
  133. WebCrawler – Why settle for one search engine when you can have them all. Get your results mixed together from Google, Yahoo, Windows Live and more.
  134. WebFetch – Query results from U.K based sites only or search internationally.
  135. WebWombat – Search through over 20 million results from Australian based websites, and customize the homepage to fit your needs.
  136. Windows Live Search – Search the web and get your own personalized page filled with information you love.
  137. World Trade Search – Search engine and trade directory for businesses in North America, Europe and Asia.
  138. WorthyLinks – A Christian search engine. Find Christian stores and resources from around the web.
  139. Yahoo – #1 -The largest Search Engine on the World Wide Web by Alexa’s traffic rank.
  140. Yoofindit.com – General information directory, all sites are reviewed by staff members.
  141. Zibb – A global search engine for finding businesses on the web.
  142. Zippy – Great all around search engine with a special emphasis on webmasters. You can compare top 10 results for SEO purposes; compare two sites against each other and other great features.
  143. Zuula – Search the web with results from all of the major search engines, you can also specify which search engines you want results from. You can also add the Zuula search to your Firefox search box.